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This is silly...
OK, Mr. Studlyhunk... here's my question:
How can I find a girlfriend for my husband's identical
twin? He is a 26 year old Russian. He's tall dark and handsome,
but painfully shy... I have introduced him to all of my
friends and he is not interested in any of them. He is
somewhat of an introvert... he doesn't like to go out into
the social scene. Instead he'd rather hang out with me
and my husband at our house. We have only been married
a year and it is getting a little bit old, if you know
what I mean. I signed him up for a dating service a few
months ago and managed to get him to go out on one date,
but it was a disaster and he swore never again! So I don't
know what else to do!!!
Any advice?
Thanks!
Julia
Dear Julia,
Since your brother-in-law is so shy, you will have to put
in a little extra effort to encourage him to move along
in the world of dating. Perhaps you could arrange for
a double date with one of your girlfriends? That way,
your brother-in-law will be on a date with a lady, but
will be able to relax because you and your husband will
be along, which will make him feel more comfortable.
If he has any hobbies, encourage him to join a class or
a group of people with similar interests. You could even
suprise him with a free membership to one of these groups.
Not only would this sort of environment force him to interact
with people and make new friends, but who knows? Maybe
he would also meet the girl of his dreams!
And tell him that he should really give the dating service
another try. He can't expect the first girl he goes out
with to be The One! Dating takes work!
One more thing. It sounds like you are making it too easy
for him to take advantage of you and your husband. You
need to lay down some rules. Choose certain nights to set
aside for just the two of you. Say, Tuesdays and Fridays
for example. Let him know that those are your "date
nights," and that he is not invited. Maybe he will
take the hint and realize that he needs a girl of his own.
If it makes you feel any better, I too am a tall, dark,
and handsome man. I even have a little bit of Russian in
me! And I have no troubles at all with the ladies. Being
shy is a relatively small obstacle. I'm sure with a little
work, your brother-in-law will be able to overcome his
shyness and find his Mrs. Right!
Good Luck!
Mr. Studlyhunk
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